All to often I hear girls talking about how much they can’t wait to “live with the love of their life, come home to them with a smile, a hug and a kiss, cook dinner together, dance around the house in their underwear and cuddle up next to them and fall asleep.”
Here’s where reality checks in –
My fiance is a hard working man, who gets up at 5:30 every evening when I wake him up 4-5 times. inside of a building with no a.c. or moving air, or some nights he works outside in the rain. When he comes home sometimes he will eat breakfast and sit with me and the kids for a few minutes. after that he has just enough energy to take a shower, find a soft place to sleep and falls asleep before his head hits the pillow. Clothes wherever they dropped, shower filthy from his body, because of the chemicals he works with. and it’s completely quiet and dark in the house. When he does finally wakeup (if he does) he has no energy, there’s no dancing around, or cooking together. Some days Im lucky and he has enough energy to go to the grocery store with me and come home and go right back to sleep. Other days when he is awake he’s a zombie and we are probably gonna bicker and argue about something small, he’s not paying enough attention to me, or he can’t stay awake to watch a movie with me, or he just doesn’t talk hardly at all and I think he hates me. He hasn’t got home yet when I wake up, most mornings. there’s no cooking breakfast together, Were on completely different schedules. Dinner is every night and half the time he doesn’t even eat with me. I make his dinner in a Tupperware container so he can take it to work due to being on completely different schedules. “Dancing around the house in our underwear” doesn’t exist. I do lots of things on my own during the week, some times my fun for the week is sitting next to him or behind him watching him play his game. Some times I feel like I follow him around like a toddler and pick up after him. And we don’t even have kids to add to all of this like some women do. Except the 7 we have already but none together.
Living with someone is NOT all kisses, and rainbows. Living with someone will make you view them completely different, some days I want to strangle him and he feels the same way, you learn so many things about yourself and your other half. You didn’t even know that you could get mad at some of the things you will get mad at. You will get so annoyed at the other person you don’t want them to look at you much less kiss or hug you. But when you are with the person God has made for you, you stick it out through all this. You understand that your hardworking man is doing his job that no one wants to do so that he can provide the best life for us that he possibly can. There are a million other couples like us, even ones that have it way worse. Yes being in love and getting to live with your other half and doing life together is awesome, and i would NOT trade him or my relationship for anything, and wouldn’t ever leave his side and he will never leave mine. I love this every day life I live with him and would not change a thing about it.
But it also comes with struggles and obstacles that will challenge you and push you to places you never wanted to go and make you a person, if only for a few seconds, that you never thought you would be. People idolize young love and relationships, and don’t realize all the real life stuff that happens behind that perfect Facebook post or picture on Pinterest they found.
So before you get all excited and think it’s just gonna be the best thing to ever happen to you, also prepare yourself for the reality of things. Because this is what things really look like.
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